Remember The Day

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“There was a girl who gave me (Leo Buscaglia) a poem, and she gave me permission to share it with you, and I want to do that because it explains about putting off and putting off and putting off – especially putting off caring about people we really love. She wants to remain anonymous, but she calls the poem, “THINGS YOU DIDN’T DO” and she says this”:

Remember the day I borrowed your brand new car and I dented it?

I thought you’d kill me, but you didn’t.

And remember the time I dragged you to the beach, and you said it would rain, and it did?

I thought you’d say, “I told you so.” But you didn’t.

Do you remember the time I flirted with all the guys to make you jealous, and you were?

I thought you’d leave me, but you didn’t.

Do you remember the time I spilled strawberry pie all over your car rug?

I thought you’d hit me, but you didn’t.

And remember the time I forgot to tell you the dance was formal and you showed up in jeans?

I thought you’d drop me, but you didn’t.

Yes, there were lots of things you didn’t do,

But you put up with me, and you loved me, and you protected me.

There were lots of things I wanted to make up to you when you returned from Vietnam.

But you didn’t.

*Artist and Author Unknown

Why Men Were Put On This Planet

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By Dane Maxwell

The following is a true story about why I feel men were put here on this planet.

1 year ago, I was invited by my best bud Drew to plant gardens with at risk children in des moines.

While I was there I witnessed a horrific event.

“You stupid bitch” …

My ears rattled and heart broke all at once the second I heard these three words.

Those words literally cut my heart.

I spun my head around to find a young boy (roughly 9 years old) in a “tiff” with a little girl.

I called the boy over, lovingly, and invited him to sit down with me…

I had no idea what I was going to say. I remember thinking “holy crap… maybe I shouldn’t have said anything? What am I going to do here?” … but something deep inside was guiding me in that moment… So I went with it.

The boy sat down next to me. Afraid. He knew he was in trouble.

I think he thought I was going to scold him.

No.

I looked at him gently and asked…

“Do you think you’re in trouble?”

“Yes,” he said.

“No, you’re not in trouble. I’m just calling you over here because I’m sad. You made me sad.”

He looked at me puzzled.

“Do you know why men were put here on this planet?”

“No,” he said.

“Men were put here on this planet to protect women.”

I paused a little…

“You are the strongest, biggest boy here. Do you know what that means?”

“No,” he said.

“It means that you are needed the most for this! It means you are the most qualified man to protect the girls here. From bad guys, from anything.

Do you know what especially hurts women?”

“No,” he said.

“Your words.”

He looked at me like in total focus. I had his complete attention.

“Do you think you can step up to this task, to be a true man?”

“Yes,” he said.

“Do you think you can protect women?”

“Yes,” he said.

“Why?”

“Because I’m big and strong and I have too!” he said.

I smiled.

I gave him a hug. He gave me a hug.

I was so present to this moment I completely forgot about it after it happened. It was gone from my memory.

On the drive home Drew asked me, “What did you say to that boy? He looked so happy and free after you talked to him!”

I told Drew the story. He said holy shit you have to tell this to everyone. It’s amazing.

“Really?” I asked.

“Yes.”

One year later, it’s on my heart to share today.

So thank you to Drew Matthew Maifeld for letting me know that these ordinary events happening in my life are actually worth sharing!

And Men. I invite you into the possibility that we as men are here to protect women. And that especially means their heart.

Take care of your girlies boys

The Story Of Life

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Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, longlost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger) but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience help to create who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

Make every day count!!! Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

Author Unknown

Photo by Johnass

A Teacher In New York

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bully’s another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.

Pass it on or better yet, if you’re a parent or a teacher, do it with your child/children.

A Teacher In New York