17 Rules For Happiness

Jumping into the sun

By Karl Moore

Every day, most of us focus on the grey clouds in the sky. Life is dim and gloomy, and showers are just minutes away. But we forget something. We don’t remember that just behind those clouds, the sun is beaming brightly – every single minute of every single day. These are 17 rules designed to shift your perspective, helping you to rediscover the happiness you may have forgotten.

Rule #1 – Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself! It’s not going to help the situation. It’ll only help you to wallow in a state of apathy, playing the victim. The kind of person that things happen to, but that can’t do anything about it. By stopping feeling sorry for yourself, you can actually get on and DO something about it. If you want to be happy – stop feeling sorry for yourself. “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.” -Helen Keller

Rule #2 – Be Grateful. Think of all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for right now. It could be your family. Or your health. Maybe your home. Your friends. Your brain. Your heart. Your spirit. We’ve all got amazing things in our own lives that make us smile with joy. And if we can count these blessings every day, we’ll discover a greater appreciation of the beautiful world we surround ourselves with. “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” -Meister Eckhardt

Rule #3 – Say Yes More. We fight against what happens to us in life, rather than allowing it to be as it is. We resist it, rather than accepting it. We say “No!” rather than saying “Yes” – or even just “Okay.” By saying “Yes!” more to life, we go with the flow. Things become more enjoyable and positive, less stressful and anxious, and often the situation turns out for the better regardless. “I will say yes to every favor, request, suggestion and invitation. I will swear to say yes where once I would say no.” –Danny Wallace

Rule #4 – Follow Your Bliss. Bliss is what you’re doing when you’re wrapped up in the moment. When you’re so thrilled just to be doing it, it ceases even to be work anymore. Your bliss occurs when you’re living in the moment, and time doesn’t really matter anymore. It’s not for the money, it’s for the pleasure. “When you follow your bliss, doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors; and where there wouldn’t be a door for anyone else.” –Joseph Campbell

Rule #5 – Learn to Let Go. Remember, letting go doesn’t mean you “forgive” the person at the grocery store, or you “allow” that kind of behavior. It just means that you release the negative emotion inside of you. By releasing negative emotions, you’ll not only enjoy much more freedom in your life – you’ll also become more emotionally stable and less stressed too. “By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.” –Lao Tzu

Rule #6 – Do Random Acts of Kindness. The more we give, the more we receive. A Random Acts of Kindness or RAK is a small act of kindness that you grant to someone else in the world – for absolutely no reason whatsoever, without expecting anything in return. Just throw a little extra kindness out to the world – and watch how you find greater happiness starting to flood back into your own life. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” -Dalai Lama

Rule #7 – Happiness Is Only Ever Now. We spend so much time waiting to be happy in the future, or worrying about the past, that we forget to live in the moment. But here’s the thing: Life is transient. The past has gone. The future is just a dream. The only time that truly exists ever is RIGHT NOW. RIGHT NOW is the ONLY time you can do or change ANYTHING in your life. And NOW is the only time you have. “Few of us ever live in the present, we are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.” -Louis LArmor

Rule #8 – Experience, Don’t Hoard! Investing in experiences rather than material goods created greater lasting happiness. It doesn’thave to be big and it doesn’t have to be expensive. And you can always do it on your own, too. By living, and truly experiencing life, we feel more whole, fulfilled and authentic. So, experience – don’t hoard – and you will be happy. “When youre curious, you find lots of interesting things to do.” –Walt Disney

Rule #9 – Appreciate Both Sides of the Coin. The truth is that in order for you to experience true happiness in your life, you must experience sadness. Without sadness, we really can’t even understand what happiness is. Just enjoy and embrace all your life adventures. And when seemingly negative things happen, remember that it’s just the duality of life. It’s just the other side of the coin. It’s required. It’s part of the equation. “You don’t know when you’ve hit a peak until you’re coming down. And you don’t know when you’ve hit a trough until you’re climbing out. It’s all good.” –David Brent

Rule #10 – Be More Social. Countless studies on the science of happiness have turned up one single characteristic of the happiest and most successful people in society. They have a large social network! Don’t just wait for interesting people to stumble into your life. Keep going and going. Expand your social circle as far as you can. Be the person that walks through town and bumps into a dozen friends. “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” -Marcel Proust

Rule #11 – Love More! We must realize that we feel the most happy in life – when we are the one giving the love! The more we love others, the happier he became. The more we love the world around us, the happier we become. The more we love even our enemies, the happier we become. And best of all, WE can control the amount of love we give – and thereby control the amount of happiness we experience. “Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” –Barbara De Angelis

Rule #12 – Have a Dream. Dream are critical. They light up life. Without them, we become bored, and tired, and apathetic. So, take this opportunity to really clarify your dreams. Take a pen and paper and spend an hour figuring out what you really dream about. But whatever you do, make sure you have a dream. They’re incredibly important. Dreams are the spark plugs of the spirit. Make sure yours are ready for action. “A person starts dying when they stop dreaming.” –Brian Williams

Rule #13 – Intention Sets Direction. Decide on where you’re going and how it’ll be for you – and it’ll happen. set your intention first. Make it clear that you’re going to have a great time, you’ll meet some fantastic people, and that it’s going to be wonderful. Set your general intention every morning and every night, too. The brighter and more positive, the better. Set your sunny intention – and you will be happy. “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” –Henry Ford

Rule #14 – Enjoy Simple Pleasures. It’s an attitude. The ability to appreciate the happiness, the beauty, the pleasure in the simple things around us. Remember the simple things that you truly enjoy. Then take time out to experience them again. Or even better, turn them into little daily or weekly rituals, filling your life with sunshine. Quite simply, enjoy simple pleasures and rituals – and you will be happy. “Simplicity is the essence of happiness.” -Cedric Bledsoe

Rule #15 – Accept What Is. By accepting, welcoming, embracing what is, you clear all of your emotions. Your thoughts gain more clarity. You become happier. You experience more freedom. If you can change things, after accepting them, you’ll have a sharper mind and more energy to do so. Pointless worrying – there’s nothing you can do about it. Shrug and smile about it, that’s life. “Happiness is a function of accepting what is.” –Werner Erhard

Rule #16 – Zoom Out and Don’t Sweat. You never, ever know what is around the corner. So, try regularly “zooming out” of your current picture, and realizing the true priorities in your life. If you can, do it every day – particularly when you return home from work. Then kick back your shoes, and enjoy some quality time with family and friends. Life is short. “If you do not raise your eyes you will think that you are the highest point.” -Antonio Porchia

Rule #17 – Laugh, Dance, Smile! Surround yourself with happiness – wonderful music, dance classes, evenings with friends. Take time to laugh at the craziness of life! Splash out and enjoy to the max. True happiness, self-development, freedom, comes from inside – and is expressed externally in bright faces, a big smile, and plenty of laughing. Laugh at all of the silly problems you’ve been holding on to, so very well, for so long. “A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life’s worthwhile.” -Unknown

The 18 Rules of Happiness: How to Be Happy by Karl Moore is available here The 18 Rules Of Happiness Pocket Guide. We left the last rule out on purpose to motivate you to buy the book :)

Comments

  1. Sid says

    Felt so good reading this.
    Put a smile on face!
    It’s so well-written too. The addition of quotes in every reason make it all the more enjoyable…
    Thanks! :)
    #LiveLifeHappy.

  2. Lola says

    This is awesome! I’m a military wife dealing with a husband that I’ve known for 13yrs and married a year. After he was away and came back home he told me that he hasn’t been in love with me for the past five years. He constantly seeks the attention of women and told me he has a girlfriend who is from France. But he says he wants me to be successful and still talks down to me…So this actually made my day a better thank you. Trying to stay sane raising both our children…keep this website inspiring.

  3. Brianne says

    I’m so glad I came across this website, I’m having a battle within myself and I’m trying to change my life. I am a very unhappy person although I have a lot to be thankful for and I have finally found true love. So many things happened while reading this as well as some clarity for me. The added quotes were a bonus. Thank you for the seed.

  4. says

    Very timely…made me appreciate my life right now after worrying too much how relationship works . I just had to let it go…and its worth it, thousand things unfolded and returned. Thank you so much . :)

  5. George says

    But what about when you give something valuable to someone such as love,affection or you try to make them feel better or you show your interest in their lives and all you get is indiferrence and even worse,unkindness and ingratitude?

  6. Janet says

    There’s nothing wrong with feeling unhappy. It is the catalyst for change. Use any negative feelings to propel yourself towards something better. Listen to your inner voice, which knows better than anyone what you should be doing with your life – even whether you should be trying to be happy!!!

  7. Aaron says

    I just got full custody of my two young daughters. My older daughter is showing a lot of signs of child depression and anxiety. It’s been incredibly hard with this transition and trying to stay strong for my kids and work a full time job at the same time. I became emotional several times while reading this article. So thankful the article found me. I’m feeling very inspired by it and I want to put all of this into affect in my daily life. Thank you!!!

  8. Julsz says

    Thank you so much for this. Lately I’ve been having issues and queries in my life — this article just enlightened me. Let’s just live this positively and happily. Kudos to the authors and whoever runs this page. :D

  9. Victoria says

    Awesome..I am always feeling sad….especially whenever I remember that I am far behind my contemporaries….with what I read today….my orientation to life has changed.I am inspired with this write-up….

  10. ShadDixon says

    Great post. Love the idea about “zooming out” and putting everything in perspective as well as the reminder to appreciate the blessings present in your life.

    -Shad Dixon

  11. Benson ritho says

    wonderful…i just have been focusing and thinking that,for i to be happy i must have great pleasure,bt only to realise that i should appreciate the simple pleasures..very very helpful. and again to me depression is over now,why?’love the both sides of the coin…coz for real happiness to be, saddness must have been b4… thank u,keep the fire burning

  12. simphiwe says

    wow guyz..some of the times we get wrried by pssng thngs,letting go is the best way whenever…i love this page!

  13. jhoonal says

    okay, so i have been going through a very dark and depressing phase of my life. had to deal with so much of emotional drama, mental chaos, toxic friendships and school troubles…. But now im willing to move forward in my life and live my best version. this page gave me so much of inspiration and so much of hope, you guys cant imagine. i love u so much, this is a gem for me. starting from today i’ll be all that i wanted to be and practice these golden tips. one day i’ll be thanking you guys for contributing in my life changing venture!!!

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